A couple weeks ago I talked about the Enemy of Minimalism: Sentimental Feelings.
What about other people’s sentimental feelings?
I think this has been just as hard as dealing with my own attachment to items.
I have gotten rid of a few things that some family members might have a really hard time with. They might think that the original owners of the item would roll over in their graves!
Truly, I know that all our family members that have passed on don’t even think about their material possessions anymore and I would bet that now that they are in their eternal home, they would wish that we wouldn’t care about material possessions either.
I have acquired many possessions that were very special to their original owners.
But, that is their life.
Do we need to continue holding onto our relative’s dreams, hopes or even guilt?
Do you have things in your house that someone would be mad at you if they found you got rid of the item?
You aren’t getting rid of the person. You are getting rid of a thing.
You are in charge of the atmosphere in your own home!
Do not let other people determine what you have.
There are times to be vocal about it, and times to just accept it graciously, allow some time to pass and graciously let the item go.
When it’s ok to be vocal about it and someone is trying to give me something that belonged to… or was bought in… or came from… I gently tell them that I will not be able to take it. If it is something I can use (like a book) I do say that I will read it and then pass it on to someone else.
They’ve opted not to give us things.
This is our home, our lives, our atmosphere, our responsibility.
Take charge! Take your life back!
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