Minimalist Parenting: Enjoy Modern Family More by Doing Less (Book Review)

Minimalist Parenting: Enjoy Modern Family More by Doing Less (Book Review)

When you first think of minimalism, getting rid of stuff is usually what comes to mind. But really, minimalism encompasses so much more than that.

Minimalism is a mindset that can apply to all areas of life, including parenting “philosophy.”

Minimalist Parenting is one resource you can turn to as you find your way as a minimalist parent.

Minimalist Parenting Book Review

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by parenting choices and decisions, Minimalist Parenting, a book co-authored by Christine Koh and Asha Dornfest, is an interesting read with a lot of value.

Both working moms of two, they share their stories, views, and strategies on how to “enjoy modern family life more by doing less.” While the book overall is geared towards families with two working parents, much of it can be applied to any family.

There is quite a lot they got right in this book.

Here are five things that really stood out:

1. “Make room for the remarkable”

Like Joshua Becker has said: “Minimalism is the intentional promotion of the things we value most and the removal of everything that distracts us from it.”

Koh and Dornfest have a similar viewpoint when it comes to Minimalist Parenting. One of their keys to Minimalist Parenting is to “make room for the remarkable.”

Whether it’s the stuff in your home, activities on the schedule, or the parenting decisions that need to be made, there is more room for the things of value when you cut the things that don’t matter.

2. Identify what you value

This book isn’t a cookie cutter approach to parenting. The authors recognize that each family is different, and each one of us is going to value different things.

They recognize the differences within the family as well. For example, your spouse grew up in a different environment, with different views, traditions, and experiences. Your children have different needs and temperaments. What you value as a family is going to be a collaboration.

To know what to promote and what to remove, you first have to know yourself, and your family members as well. Koh and Dornfest give a series of questions to help identify your parenting/family values.

And it’s all a process. You don’t have to have it all figured out right now; you just have to start paying attention, and take note of it.

The best part: getting to know yourself and your family members better in the process.

The more your know yourself and your family, the more you can re-evaluate and tailor your parenting, and life, to align with those values, which is what minimalism, and minimalist parenting, is all about in the end.

3. Learn to trust yourself

Koh and Dornfest infer that each of us already has what it takes to be great parents. We need to trust ourselves to make good parenting decisions for our children.

Just as each of us, and each family has different values, each one of our children has unique needs. Some are extroverts; some are introverts. Some are analytical; some are artistic.

Our parenting decisions need to take our own children’s needs into account.

Take school, for example. Some kids excel at traditional public school; for others, homeschooling works best.

There are so many prevailing attitudes out there on what should or shouldn’t be done in parenting. But “shoulds” can be harmful. Learning to watch out for those “shoulds” and trusting your gut instead is important to minimalist parenting.

4. Letting go of perfectionism

Whether it’s important parenting decisions you need to make, or something simpler, like planning vacations, Koh and Dornfest affirm the importance of letting go of perfectionism.

When it comes to those big decisions, they suggest “course correction” if needed, instead of being caught up in fretting over the “right” or perfect decision. Sometimes a decision just needs to be made. It doesn’t mean it’s forever, or can’t be adjusted later.

In the book, Dornfest shares the story of deciding to homeschool her son, which she describes as “the scariest decision of their lives at the time.” In the end, she realized, “… in actuality, we had just taken a fork in the road. We could always make a change later on.”

And for those simpler things in life, like vacations, if we get caught in perfectionism, we lose the ability to enjoy our time with our children.

5. The importance of play and buffer time

Children (and parents) need down time!

  • “Everyone needs open, unstructured time to get creative, follow a train of thought, run off energy, and extend his or her imagination beyond the distance of a computer screen or to-do list. We all deserve the freedom of no agenda every now and then.”-Asha Dornfest and Christine Doh, Minimalist Parenting

Building extra time into the schedule is important, for you and your kids.

Final thoughts on Minimalist Parenting

This book is a comprehensive resource for parenting as a minimalist. From getting rid of clutter, to meal-time and finances, Minimalist Parenting covers a lot.

For more minimalist parenting inspiration, you can check out the Edit Your Life podcast.

 

About the author, Rachel

Hi there! I’m the Joyful Space Specialist. it’s my desire help others create a joyful space of their own and enjoy their time spent at home.

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