I took a class once from an amazing woman. She described how often we live our lives from somewhere about 3 feet above us. We aren’t “in” our bodies, but rather, trying organize and control our lives from outside of ourselves.
I realized that I was guilty of this. How many times I found myself doing things with my children and my husband or with other people, where my focus was really scattered all over, trying to “oversee life” and my attention was not there with those with whom I was intending to be.
We have so many opportunities in our lives to be distracted. Technology has made it incredibly easy for our mind to be in too many places at once.
Think of the last time you went to a restaurant with friends; were you checking your phone? Were others with you checking their phones?
Or the last time you played a board game; were there other distractions going on? Did people have to be reminded when their turn came up because they were looking at a screen?
When you sit down to eat dinner, are you looking at the food, visiting with those around you?
When you take the kids to the park, do you interact with others and enjoy the outdoors?
Jot Your Thoughts
If you find that ideas, to-dos and plans are keeping you from being “in the moment”, then carry a pocket notebook or use a phone app and start jotting down your thoughts, to-dos and ideas in it.
Once your thoughts are on paper or saved in your phone, stop thinking about them. You can bring out your list when it’s time for that task; rather than keeping a running tally going all day long.
Minimize Your Distractions
Start putting your phone on silent, or turn it off altogether.
Remove all app alerts from your phone and computer. Don’t worry, you won’t forget to check your email. Trust me.
Be All There
Next time someone comes up to talk to you, think about focusing just on what they are saying.
Don’t think about how you will respond. Don’t look at the phone if you get a text in the middle of the conversation. Don’t stop and remind the kids of something.
Several times a day, take a few deep breaths and think about where you are and where your mind is. Slow your mind down and allow it to join you where you are standing.
Keep yourself in the situation at hand.