Have you ever said “I’ve decluttered before, I can do that part. But how do I stop it from coming back?”
I’ve been in that place myself. I remember as a kid grabbing up my mom’s copy of Clutter’s Last Stand and reading it through. I decluttered my toys and my room would be ok for, oh a day.
It continued on through my life as a young mom and even on my journey to minimalism, this was a constant battle. I would get a room the way I liked it and then a month later, I wouldn’t be able to tell a difference.
So many bags and boxes kept leaving my home, why wasn’t it becoming what I wanted??
What is it that keeps the clutter from coming back in?
Decluttering is not the end result—it is merely the first step. You don’t become instantly happy and content by just getting rid of your stuff—at least not in the long run. Decluttering doesn’t work like that. If you simply embrace the what without the why, then you’ll get nowhere (slowly and painfully, by the way, repeatedly making the same mistakes). It is possible to get rid of everything you own and still be utterly miserable, to come home to your empty house and sulk after removing all your pacifiers. The Minimalists
First off, you have to ask yourself some serious questions:
- Why do I want to simplify my life?
- What do I want my home to look like and feel like?
- How do I want to live my life?
- Why am I discontent?
- Why do I feel I need possessions?
Knowing where you want to go and what you want to accomplish with decluttering is very important. Decluttering, in and of itself isn’t the goal. It’s a means to an end. To what end are you working? What do you want to do with your life when possessions aren’t taking up your time and energy?
Create a vision for yourself. Imagine you home the way you want it. Then imagine what you will be doing with your time. What does your ideal home and life look like? How do you wake up? What do you do to fill your days? What does it look like when you have your dinner meal? How do you spend your evenings?
Having a clean picture of your ideal home and life is important to your decluttering journey. You need to have a goal to think about as you remove those bags and boxes from your home. Otherwise, what will prevent you from shopping at the thrift store when you drop those bags off?
Everything in your home has to have a home.
Decluttering is the important first step. You can’t give something a “home” if there is no space. If you bring home a new shirt and don’t have an inch to spare in your dresser or closet, that shirt will be left out… it sits on the dresser top or chair, because it doesn’t have a home.
But you can’t very well give it a home until you let go of something else, can you?
So, spend some time decluttering. Let go of the excess and when you have only the things and that you love/use/need in that space, then you can take time to give each item a home of it’s own.
There is no need to buy organizational tools. If you only keep the essentials, there will be plenty of space for them.
If you have to buy stuff to store your stuff, you might have too much stuff. Courtney Carver
When you declutter a space, spend some time there deciding how you want to use it. Like the main entryway of your home: First sort through all the things there, do they get used there? Do you actually need, use or love them? If you have 6 jackets that pile up in the closet, pull them all out and only put back the ones you really like wearing. Then ask yourself if they have a home? Do you have hooks to put them on? Hangers in the closet? Where would you like these jackets to belong?
Take some time to change your habits.
Clutter didn’t create itself. It’s there because you put it there. What habits do you have that created the clutter? There may be many of them, some of them already mentioned above: you buy a lot, you don’t designate a home for things, you don’t put things away, you buy but don’t remove things … you may have other habits that create clutter. Change those habits, one at a time. Take 30 days and focus on a clutter habit, and see if you can create a new habit that will reduce your clutter. Zen Habits
When I teach decluttering, I start with routines. If you don’t have some daily cleaning routines or rituals in place, you can be uber-minimalist and only own 100 items, but there will still be clothes on the floor, garbage on the counter and dirty dishes laying around the house.
Developing habits takes effort, but if can be done and it can become a joy. When you make tidying a regular part of each day, it begins to flow through your day without you having to decide to, and soon having those clear counters and clean dishes will be typical and effortless.