Why a Minimalist Playroom is Better for Kids
I don’t remember any friends with playrooms when I was a kid, but when I started having my children, I attended many a playdate at people’s houses, always hosted at the houses that had playrooms.
It was like a daycare facility, except none of them ran a daycare- that’s what they had acquired, trying desperately to keep their children entertained.
The only reason I didn’t have one is that I didn’t have an extra room in my house to put a playroom, otherwise- it would have happened!
But are we really doing the best for our kids when we have a playroom with an overabundance of toys?
Limited the toys has helped my children.
When my children had a toy box full of toys as well as an entire closet dedicated to large toys and sets of toys, we had toys spread all over the house.
They would take everything out of the toybox, (‘m still not sure why I don’t think there was ever anything in the bottom of the toybox that they were looking for) and they would take all the toys out of the closet as well.
Toys covered the floor of their room, so much so, it was difficult to walk through their room. And the toys often found their way out over the rest of the house.
Every night we would pick-up, tossing toys in the closet and into the toy box so I didn’t suffer from a Lego-related accident in the middle of the night.
It repeated like this every single day and I began to hate those toys.
When I started limiting the toys, I let each child keep 20 personal items and then evaluated which sets of toys they played with and which ones needed to leave the house.
The difference in how they played after we got rid of so many toys was quite amazing. They were occupied longer, got along better and actually played with what toys they had.
Researchers led by occupational therapist Alexia Metz at the University of Toledo in Ohio were curious about whether the number of toys would affect how the children played, including how many toys they played with and how long they spent with each toy. The researchers also wondered about children’s creativity, such as the ability to imagine a bucket as a drum or a hat.
In the experiment, 36 children ages 18 to 30 months visited a laboratory playroom twice while cameras caught how they played. On one visit, the room held four toys. On the other visit, the room held 16 toys.
When in the playroom with 16 toys, children played with more toys and spent less time with each one over a 15-minute session, the researchers found. When the same kids were in a room with four toys, they stuck with each toy longer, exploring other toys less over the 15 minutes.
What’s more, the quality of the children’s play seemed to be better when fewer toys were available. The researchers noted more creative uses of the toys when only four were present versus 16. ~ sciencenews.org
Science will say that more studies like this one need to be done, but as parents, it’s not hard to test this out for ourselves, even if the toys are only hidden away for a time.
For many years my method was this: we piled all the toys into the middle of the floor, had each child pick out his 20 items and then we boxed the rest for either trash or giveaway. We kept different sets of toys in the closet and eventually learned to take them out one at a time. This worked well for the older 3 children and they did play longer, more imaginatively and with less arguing all around.
My younger children, however, are more attached to toys and asking my daughter to only pick 20 seemed traumatizing to her sentimental nature.
So instead, I had to pack things up, vowing not to get rid of them until she gave me permission. We tried a 2-month experiment where we left out only a handful of toys.
It went so well, we never went back.
It was really quite amazing how much time kids can play with one toy and the only difference was removing the 50 other similar toys from their room.
Joshua Becker of Becoming Minimalist shares Why Fewer Toys Will Benefit Your Kids:
- Kids learn to be more creative.
- Kids develop longer attention spans.
- Kids establish better social skills.
- Kids learn to take greater care of things.
- Kids develop a greater love for reading, writing, and art.
- Kids become more resourceful.
- Kids argue with each other less.
- Kids learn perseverance.
- Kids become less selfish.
- Kids experience more of nature.
- Kids learn to find satisfaction outside of the toy store.
- Kids live in a cleaner, tidier home.
Keep their personality in mind
As you are working through the toys, helping your children decide what to keep out and what to put away (whether it’s permanently or as an experiment) keep in mind your child’s personality and play style.
Some children will play more with building toys- Legos, blocks, etc. while other’s are drawn to role-playing- baby dolls, kitchen toys, etc.
Limit the categories as well:
When you keep the baby-doll out, only keep out a few essentials to play with- a blanket and outfit perhaps. Don’t keep out all the accessories- stroller, bed, 10 outfits, diapers, shoes, etc. Keep it simple or the experiment won’t work.
When you keep out the Lego sets, limit it to a manageable amount, a shoe-box full or similar.
If the kids are worried about losing their toys, assure them kids that you won’t get rid of them without their permission. That way they can enter the experiment without any worry.
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Hello! I wanted to tell you how much this idea has changed my life! We started the “pick 20 things” about 9 months ago and it has worked 1000% better than I thought. The kids fight so much less, play with things longer and, well I have to say, actually play with their toys. Before this, we had the same problem of toys everywhere and toys just dumped on the floor. It takes my 5 minutes to clean up their toys now! I highly suggest minimalism for kids. But my wow moment came the last time we did our “pick 20 things” which was after Christmas. My son asked if he can pick just 10. Wow!
How do you deal with grandparents that are deeply hurt and insulted when you don’t keep the toys they have given as gifts for the next generation. I inherit my nephew’s toys to store for when “he has his own children”. I have donated some and sold others, but when his grandmother found out I had sold one of the larger ones, I was on the blacklist for days. There are times she still talks about it, so we never tell her when we do. However, this idea of family belongings being passed down in families can start real wars if you don’t play along.
I’m upfront with them from the beginning. I let them know that I’m not going to store things and once I’m done using it, I will pass it on. So they tend to ask other people to take things instead of me.